Want to Read. Shelving menu. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Rate it:. The Slayer legion is organized and encountering me… More. Now you look like a Somebody. One day, to test Hang by Your Teeth, I decided to count how many times I walked through a doorway: sixty times, even at home.
It adds up. Visualize anything sixty times a day and it becomes a habit! You now have all the basics Bob the artist needs to portray you as a big winner.
When you hang by your teeth, every muscle is stretched into perfect posture position. Use the next two techniques to make him or her feel like a million. Because we all silently ask that question. Do they look at us? Do they smile? Do they lean toward us? Do they somehow recognize how wonderful and special we are? We like those people.
They have good taste. The cretins! But we do have eyes that narrow or widen. Attorneys conducting voir dire are exquisitely aware of this. They pay close attention to your instinctive body reactions. They check out your hands. They scrutinize your 21 Copyright by Leil Lowndes. An interesting aside: trial lawyers often choose women to do this twitch-and-turn spying job because, traditionally, females are sharper observers of subtle body cues than males.
During the summation by the prosecu- tion, Judge Hoffman leaned forward, which, accused Kuntsler, sent a message to the jury of attention and interest. During his defense summation, complained Kuntsler, Judge Hoffman leaned back, sending the jury a subliminal message of disinterest. I really like you. However, when little Johnny sees Daddy come home, he runs up to him, he smiles, his eyes get wide, and he opens his arms for a hug.
When forty-year-old Johnny is feeling timid, he slumps and folds his arms in front of his chest. When he wants to reject a salesman or business colleague, he turns away and closes him off with a myriad of body signals. However, when welcoming his loved one home after an absence, big Johnny opens his body to her like a giant daffodil spreading its petals to the sun after a rainstorm. Treat People Like Big Babies Once I was at a corporate star-studded party with an attractive, recently divorced friend of mine.
Carla had been a copywriter with one of the leading advertising agencies which, like so many companies then, had downsized. My girlfriend was both out of work and out of a relationship. At this particular party, the pickings for Carla were good, both personally and professionally. She sometimes graced the tentatively courting male with a quick smile over her shoulder.
Carla turned toward him. During our chat, corporate beasts continued to stalk Carla with their eyes and she continued casting half smiles at them. She was obviously disappointed none of them was making a further approach. I had to bite my tongue. Do you recall how you smiled that beautiful big smile of yours, turned toward him, and welcomed him into our grown-up conversation?
I want you to give the next man who smiles at you that same big smile you gave Willie. I want you to turn toward him just like you did then. Carla played her role to perfection. After a few moments, I excused myself. Neither noticed my departure because they were in animated conversation. It is a skill that will help you win whatever your heart desires from whatever type of beasts you encounter in the social or corporate jungle.
The instant the two of you are introduced, reward your new acquaintance. Give the warm smile, the total-body turn, and the undivided attention you would give a tiny tyke who crawled up to your feet, turned a precious face up to yours, and beamed a big toothless grin.
The secret to mak- ing people like you is showing how much you like them! Your body is a twenty-four-hour broadcasting station reveal- ing to anyone within eyeshot precisely how you feel at any given moment. Even if your Hang by Your Teeth posture is gaining their respect, your Flooding Smile and The Big-Baby Pivot are making them feel special, and your Sticky Eyes are capturing their hearts and minds, the rest of your body can reveal any incongruence.
Unfortunately, when meeting someone, our brains are in over- drive. Our brains become lean. Others are frantically sizing up the situation. And hungry. So we think too much instead of respond- 27 Copyright by Leil Lowndes. Such actions are dangerous to impending friendship, love, or commerce. We need a technique to ensure every shot aims right at the heart of our subject.
We need to trick our bod- ies into reacting perfectly. When we see someone we love or feel com- pletely comfortable with, we respond warmly from head to toe without a thought. Our lips part happily. We step closer. Our arms reach out. Our eyes become soft and wide. Even our palms turn up and our bodies turn fully toward our dear friend. It guar- antees that everyone you encounter will feel your warmth. But somehow you lost track of your friend.
No information online. None of your mutual friends had a clue. Suddenly, WOW! What a surprise! After all those years, the two of you are reunited. You are so happy. Obviously, you are not going to try to convince the new person that the two of you are really old friends. You will amaze yourself. You make this new person feel very special indeed.
Technique 6 Hello Old Friend When meeting someone, imagine he or she is an old friend an old customer, an old beloved, or someone else you had great affection for. How sad, the vicis- situdes of life tore you two asunder.
But, holy mack- erel, now the party the meeting, the convention has reunited you with your long-lost old friend! The joyful experience starts a remarkable chain reaction in your body from the subconscious softening of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes—and everything between. The group chats as though at a pleasant semiformal gathering. Later I ask them to introduce themselves to another stranger, imagining they are old friends. The difference is extraor- dinary.
The atmosphere is charged with good feeling. The air sparkles with happier, high-energy people. They are standing closer, laughing more sincerely, and reaching out to one another.
When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them. When surveyed later, the results showed the volunteers wound up genuinely liking the subjects. The unsuspecting subjects were also surveyed. These respondents expressed much higher respect and affection for the volunteers who pretended they liked them.
What it boils down to is love begets love, like begets like, respect begets respect. You now have all the basics to come across to everyone you meet as a Somebody, a friendly Somebody.
In addition to being liked, you want to appear credible, intel- ligent, and sure of yourself. Each of the next three techniques accomplishes one of those goals. Throughout the interview, the applicant had been sitting with her left leg crossed over her right. Her hands were comfortably rest- ing in her lap and she was looking directly at me. Without swerving her eyes from mine, she told me. I asked if she enjoyed her work. At one point, she put her hands up to her mouth.
Nevertheless, it was enough, she said, that she wanted to pursue the subject further. I asked her about her goals for the future. I asked again if it was only the lack of growth opportunity that made her leave her pre- vious position.
Sure enough, once again, the woman shifted in her seat and momentarily broke eye contact. As she continued talking about her last job, she started rubbing her forearm. Just recently a colleague of mine was considering hiring an in- house booking agent. He looked right at me. He answered all my questions directly. Because of that, many large companies turn to the polygraph, or lie detector, a mechanical apparatus designed to detect if someone is lying.
How to Come Across as Percent Credible to Everyone 33 Banks, drugstores, and grocery stores rely heavily on it for pre- employment screening.
Interest- ingly, the polygraph is not a lie detector at all! So is it accurate? Well, yes, often it is. Because when the average person tells a lie, he or she is emotionally aroused and bodily changes do take place. Experienced or trained liars, however, can fool the polygraph. A young man telling an attractive woman about his business success might shift his weight. More problems arise out of the atmosphere. A politician giving a speech outdoors could blink excessively because the air is dusty.
Professional communicators, alert to this hazard, consciously squelch any signs anyone could mistake for shiftiness. They never put their hands on their faces. If you want to come across as an entirely credible Somebody, try to squelch all extraneous movement when your communica- tion counts. And above all, keep your paws away from your puss. Hans was owned by Herr von Osten, a Berliner, who had trained Hans to do simple arithmetic by tapping his right front hoof.
He became known as Clever Hans, the counting horse. Herr von Osten taught Hans to do more than just add. Soon the horse could subtract and divide. In time, Clever Hans even mastered the multiplication tables. The horse became quite a phe- nomenon. Without his owner uttering a single word, Hans could count out the size of his audience, tap the number wearing glasses, or respond to any counting question they asked him.
Finally, Hans achieved the ultimate ability that separates man from animal—language. By tapping out hoof beats for each letter, he answered any question about any- thing humans had read in a newspaper or heard on the radio. He could even answer common questions about history, geography, and human biology. Hans made headlines and was the main topic of discussion at dinner parties throughout Europe. Whatever their sus- picions, it was obvious to all, Hans was a very smart horse. Com- pared to other horses, Hans was a Somebody.
Cut to today. Why is it when you talk with certain individu- als you just know they are smarter than other people—that they are a Somebody? Nevertheless, everybody knows. The day of the big test arrived. They were going to bar von Osten from the hall and put his horse to the test all alone. When the crowd was assembled, they told von Osten he must leave the auditorium.
The surprised owner departed, and Hans was stranded in an auditorium with a suspicious and anxious audience. He tapped out the right answer! A second. He got it right! Then a third. Then the language questions followed. He got them all right!
The commission was befuddled. The critics were silenced. With a great outcry, they insisted on a new commission. Commission number two started the enquiry perfunctorily with a simple addition prob- lem. Everyone expected Hans to quickly tap out the sum. But Hans remained dumb! The researchers revealed the truth to the waiting world. Can you guess what that was?
Now can you guess? When Hans started tapping the answer to a question, the audience would show sub- tle signs of tension.
Then, when Hans reached the right number, they responded by an expulsion of breath or slight relaxation of muscles. Von Osten had trained Hans to stop tapping at that point and therefore appear to give the right answer. Someone asks you to hit the mute button on the television so they can talk.
You see performers smiling, scowling, smirking, squinting, and scores of other expressions. Are they nodding? Are their palms up? Are they frowning? Are they looking away? Are their knuck- les clenched? Are they rubbing their necks? Are they stepping back? Are their feet pointing toward the door? Maybe they want to get away. When they feel superior to you, they steeple their hands.
For the moment, all you need to do is tune to the silent channel being broadcast by the speaker. Then plan your moves accordingly.
If a horse can do it, so can a human. People will say you pick up on everything. You never miss a trick. The athlete at the top of the piste, every muscle primed and poised, waiting for the gun to propel him to ultimate victory. The athlete is visualizing. All athletes do it: divers, runners, jumpers, javelin throwers, lugers, swimmers, skaters, acrobats. They visualize their magic before performing it. They hear the sound of the wind, the splash in the water, the whirr of the javelin, the thud of its landing.
They smell the grass, the cement, the pool, the dust. Before they move a muscle, professional athletes watch the whole movie, which, of course, ends in their own victory. Sports psychologists tell us visualization is not just for top- level competitive athletes.
Studies show mental rehearsal helps weekend athletes sharpen their golf, their tennis, their running, whatever their favorite activity.
Experts agree if you see the pic- tures, hear the sounds, and feel the movements of your body in your mind before you do the activity, the effect is powerful. Absolutely not! My friend Richard runs marathons. He was not badly injured. Nevertheless, his friends felt sorry for him because being laid up two weeks in bed would, naturally, knock him out of the big event. What a surprise when, on that crisp November marathon morning in Central Park, Richard showed up in his little shorts and big running shoes.
Every day. Twenty-six miles, yards, right there on my mattress. He saw the sights, heard the sounds, and felt the twitching movements in his mus- cles. He visualized himself racing in the marathon. Visualization works best when you feel totally relaxed. Only when you have a calm state of mind can you get clear, vivid images.
Do your visualization in the quiet of your home or car before leaving for the party, the convention, or the big-deal meet- ing. You now have the skills necessary to get you started on the right foot with any new person in your life.
HEAR your- self chatting comfortably with everyone. FEEL the pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone is gravitating toward you. Then it all happens automatically. We do not guarantee that these techniques will work for you. Some of the techniques listed in The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved may require a sound knowledge of Hypnosis, users are advised to either leave those sections or must have a basic understanding of the subject before practicing them.
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